Love Should Never Hurt
Understanding the Myths and Realities
Myth: “This could never happen to me.”
Reality: Dating abuse can happen to anyone. More than 1 in 10 young people experience physical violence in a dating relationship.
Myth: “Jealousy and possessiveness mean someone really loves you.”
Reality: These are not signs of love—they are signs of control. Jealousy is one of the most common early warning signs of abuse.
Myth: “Teen dating violence isn’t a serious issue.”
Reality: Abuse in teen relationships can have lifelong impacts. One in five teen girls report being abused by a dating partner, and many survivors of sexual assault are between the ages of 16 and 24. This issue is real and deeply serious.
Myth: “Only girls are victims of dating violence.”
Reality: While most reported cases involve female survivors, people of all genders can experience dating abuse. No one deserves to be hurt or controlled.
Myth: “Victims bring abuse on themselves.”
Reality: Abuse is never the victim’s fault. It happens because the person causing harm chooses to exert power and control. Everyone deserves a relationship built on equality, respect, and safety.
Myth: “If someone stays in an abusive relationship, it must not be that bad.”
Reality: There are many reasons someone might stay, including fear, confusion, emotional manipulation, isolation, or hope that things will change. Leaving can be difficult—and even dangerous.
Are You Being Hurt in Your Relationship?
Have you experienced any of the following from a dating partner?
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Being criticized, humiliated, or yelled at?
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Controlled through money, access to transportation, or decision-making?
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Threats to leave, self-harm, or harm others if you don’t comply?
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Destruction of your belongings or harm to pets?
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Physical violence like hitting, shoving, choking, or slapping—even if they apologized after?
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Pressured or forced into sexual activity, especially after threats or violence?
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Constant monitoring of where you are, who you talk to, or what you do?
If any of these sound familiar, know this: you are not alone. What’s happening to you is not your fault, and help is available.
In the Wilmington area, Domestic Violence Shelter and Services, Inc. supports people of all ages facing relationship abuse. Reach out confidentially and without judgment at 910.343.0703 or click here for additional contact options.